NOTE: I probably should’ve named this post the “advantages of not dieting” rather than the advantages of staying overweight. What will happen to my weight when I focus my energies on other goals than actively trying to lose weight? I don’t know but I hope that I don’t gain more weight. Of course it’s also quite possible I don’t lose any weight either.
I’m going to do it anyway. 🙂
The last four months have been pretty busy and I haven’t used much energy to further my weight loss.
The good news is that even though I haven’t lost any weight, I haven’t gained more weight either.
On the other hand, when I was running some errands yesterday, I happened to see my reflection in a window I was passing. What I saw was this short, plump and waist-less middle-aged woman, which was a nasty reminder about the fact that what I appear on the outside doesn’t correspond to what I feel like on the inside.
Now that I’m not so busy, I thought I would restart my weight loss efforts by gauging my motivation for losing weight.
I decided to do a paradoxical version of the cost benefit analysis technique I’ve used many times before. Paradoxical means that I only list the advantages of staying overweight. That is what I did yesterday evening.
Here are my advantages of staying overweight (or not dieting)
- I can eat whatever I want, whenever I want
- I don’t need to diet anymore and I can focus on other things in my life
- I can feel morally superior to the superficial culture that is overly focused on looks and body weight 🙂
- I can comfort myself with food any time I feel like it
- I can make my food choices on the basis of what I want to eat, not what I feel I should eat to lose weight or for “health”
- I don’t need to feel guilty about my food choices
- Men who are interested in me will (presumably) be interested in my because of my personality and what I am, not because of my looks
- I can finally stop overthinking my diet, looks and weight
- NO need to exert self-control over eating
I started doing my little task with the expectation that I would be more motivated to lose weight. The opposite thing happened.
My list of advantages of losing weight – like getting rid of my flabby underarms and being able to find better-looking clothes* – was no match to the advantages of not dieting anymore. The bolded items on my list are the ones that count, the rest are virtually insignificant.
I’m so tired of putting all this mental energy to weight loss when my life could benefit so much if I put the same amount of energy to improving it in other ways.
Nevertheless, there are a couple of questions I need to address before I give up dieting.
* I have a list of all the advantages of losing weight too. It has seventeen items on it. 🙂
Will I be happy with my looks?
No, I am not happy with the way I look at the moment. I know I won’t be happy when I’m shopping for new clothes or a pair of bras or when I catch my reflection in a shop window. But I think I can live with it – my appearance is not the most important thing in my life and I don’t spend much of my time shopping for clothes either.
I don’t love the way I look but I don’t loath my looks either.
What about my health?
What about my health them? Am I not putting it in jeopardy if I don’t try to lose weight?
I don’t think so. My BMI is 29,2 at the moment, and as long as it stays under 30 I think I will be pretty safe health-wise. And of course I wont stop doing the other things that are good for my health like exercising and eating a mostly reasonable diet.
I can’t really put it into words how happy and liberated I feel. Now I can finally concentrate on the important things in my life. 🙂
If you’re curious about the cost benefit analysis technique, check my post on weight loss excuses.
Your thoughts, please!