Living In a Cosy Prison?

I’ve been feeling very blue this week. One of my favorite Finnish bloggers shared a music video on his blog. I’ve been playing the video again and again because the lyrics feel especially poignant to me right now.

Perhaps they strike a chord in you too.

The song is  a-ha’s “Cosy Prisons”.

Take a moment if you dare
Catch yourself a breath of air
There’s another life out there
And you should try it
But hiding out in a salad bar [on inside an ice cream bin]
Isn’t gonna get you far
So if you’re careful
You won’t get hurt
But if your careful all the time
then what’s it worth

I added the ice cream part myself because I think both salad bars and bins of ice cream can equally be “cosy” hiding places. You spend your time worrying about E-codes and calories when the real issues in your life are left unaddressed for years or even decades.

And I think Deb form DietSchmiet is right to be worried about the future. At 44 you don’t have the luxury of dismissing the possibility that you could, indeed, be dead in 20 years – and your “song dying within you”, largely because you never managed to get unstuck from your issues.


For myself, I’m wondering where I can get the energy and courage to get unstuck from my current life situation in order to create something better for myself.


  1. Satu, I’m trying to write my post about what I’m planning to do when I finish work… ie. my dreams, but am struggling. I’m nervous about putting it ‘out there’ in case I fail. I’m scared to WANT something that I might not achieve. But – the whole ‘too late’ thing is worrying me a bit.

    I’ve heard of a few people my age having major health issues recently and of some deaths. My own boss at work (is 50yrs old) has just been diagnosed with untreatable cancer in both kidneys.

    It scares me that I spend so much time wanting things I don’t pursue (I mean, what am I waiting for?!). I want that to change. But I’m still scared.

    Like the line in the song:

    “If you’re careful, You won’t get hurt”.

    Thanks for reminding me of this.


  2. Marion says:

    Hi Satu! I love AHA. Even teen daughter does.

    On the subject: Anticipating something new is always the worst part. Hardly anything is as bad as the thousand deaths we die thinking about what could go wrong–that hardly ever does. So I just try not to over-think things. Lighter superficial thoughts are useful in these circumstances. After I’m done trying something new, I’m usually very glad that I did.

    🙂 Marion

    • Satu says:

      Hi Marion!

      I’m actually more afraid that I won’t be able make the changes I need to make. I’ve been stuck for so long it’s not even funny.

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