Everyone who has dieted more than once knows that it’s very likely you’ll regain the weight at some point in future. (Whether you’re willing to acknowledge the fact is another matter entirely.)
There are many reasons why that happens, one of them being that you never learned to eat better while you were losing weight. But even if your diet is better now than before you started dieting, that doesn’t guarantee you won’t gain weight at some point.
I’m not just trying to be a kill-joy. I am thinking about my own life and marvelling at my repeated life patterns. My pattern is so obvious and has repeated so often it would be stupid to ignore it.
Here it is.
I started comforting myself with chips and chocolate and gained weight when I was undergoing a hard time in my teens (I was being bullied in junior high school and got very depressed at one point). After I got to senior high school, my life slowly improved and I gradually lost my extra weight. I found friends and started new hobbies. My life wasn’t perfect, but it was good enough.
Fast forward twenty years and there’s the pattern again.
Three years ago, in spring 2009, I already had a good start at improving my diet and was close to my goal weight. Then, boom, I fell head-first into an episode of clinical depression. At the same time, I started suffering from runner’s knee pain and couldn’t exercise. (I also had my last period that year). When I weighed myself 2.5 years later (in August 2011), I had gained more than 22 pounds.
For me, poor quality of life and gaining weight go hand in hand. My self-care goes down and my weight goes up. Surprisingly, body weight is not an isolated phenomenon that is unaffected by what goes on in person’s life. 🙂
Trying to make changes in your diet and lifestyle when your resources are depleted by some crisis is an exercise in futility. Your limited energy would be better used at improving your life, not tinkering with your weight issues.
Personally, it means I’ll try to put more emphasis on improving the quality of my life than “tinkering with my body issues”. (That doesn’t mean I won’t expect to lose weight or wait to improve my relationship with food and eating. I do.) What comes to body weight, the way I eat right now seems to work pretty well for me, and barring big crises, I’m probably going to reach my goal size (measured by my goal jeans) sooner or later.
I still think that gaining weight at some point is more than likely, unless I improve on other areas of my life.
Question: Do gaining weight and the quality of your life go hand in hand in your life? (Not everyone gains weight when they suffer from some crises – some people actually lose their appetite…)