I’m not in a mood for writing a long post today, so I created a new fitspiration picture for a quote from Edmund Hillary: “It’s not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.”
But then Marion’s comment to my self-control post started bothering me. Here is a part of what Marion said:
Sometimes, I think that it’s great to have no self-control for a while. I had years of my life where I ran myself ragged with self-control and I wasn’t very happy. I’ve learned to let the housecleaning go, sometimes, for the sake of relaxing. So there still needs to be a balance, I guess.
I think Marion makes an important point here.
We can use willpower to exceed our limits, at least to some extent. A good example is running yourself ragged in pursuit of some goal. I used to do the same – I had a lot of perfectionist goals I wanted to achieve. I wasn’t happy but I thought it was because I hadn’t reached my goals. If I had just tried harder I would’ve reached my goals and perhaps even “achieved” that elusive state of happiness. Duh!
These days I’m not as convinced that achieving goals is the only thing that matters (some part of me still thinks like that). The bad news – at least to me – was that unfortunately we humans are beings with multiple needs like rest, fun, creativity and human relationships (gasp!) – and blind relentless striving may not leave much room for them.
It has taken me ages to accept and recognize that sometimes I need to ease off and attend to my other needs (Migraines are a good reminder – they will force me to pay attention).
To summarize: if you use your willpower to repeatedly override your human needs, you’re using it for evil.
What is a sign that something is off-balance in your life?