Do You Diet Without Dieting?

I haven’t been officially dieting for a long time.

I don’t restrict my calories, count fat or carb grams, binge or have a list of forbidden foods. I don’t exercise to earn a permission to eat my favorite foods. It goes without saying I’m above all that dieting nonsense like Cabbage Soup Diet or Blood Type Diet.

I’m so smart, am I not? 🙂

Nevertheless, I’ve started doubting that dieting mentality is still firmly rooted in the deep recesses of my mind. Whether I’m officially dieting or not, there’s something peculiar about my relationship with food .

It’s like I had a bomb inside me waiting to go off at any moment!

What set me thinking is the curious way I behaved on my summer vacation. I’m referring to the day I spent eating cinnamon rolls for breakfast, ice cream for lunch and generally enjoying all the foods I usually don’t allow myself to freely enjoy. I wasn’t bingeing and felt no regret the day after.

It’s obvious I usually keep myself in a tight control and can let my guard down only on special occasions like vacations.

There are many other signs I don’t trust myself around food:

  • I don’t keep stashes of my favorite treats like chocolate, candy or ice cream at home
  • I constantly stress about my diet meeting my strict health requirements
  • My diet consists mostly of the same old “safe” foods
  • I try not to eat “too much” and carefully avoid eating goodies “too often”
  • It’s all about health: taking pleasure in eating plays a minor role

From Unconscious Dieting To Normal Eating

I care about this issue because I doubt that unless I’m able to normalize my relationship with food, I will never be able to lose weight permanently. It’s not enough that I lose weight slowly and “sensibly”, I believe it’s equally important that I learn to trust yourself around food again.

What I ultimately strive for is the kind of relationship with food I had as a child. I enjoyed eating normal meals and consumed candy, chips and ice cream without guilt. I didn’t know carbs and calories from Barbie dolls, and I certainly didn’t spend my time worrying about fats, carbs and nutrition data.

And all the while I was effortlessly thin and healthy.

Learning To Eat Normally

I’ve already started the process of learning to eat normally, or intuitive eating if you want to call it that. I simply decided to step off the beaten path and stop controlling my eating.

I’ve been on it less than fourteen days and some surprising things have happened already. I ate ice cream on eight consecutive days. 🙂 Once I forgot a bar of chocolate half-eaten on a shelf for a few hours, which would’ve have been impossible just a while back.


Use the comment box below to tell about your relationship with food. Any signs you’re dieting without being counscious about it?

Best Wishes,




  1. Hi Satu! Well, my body is intuitively out of whack! I think I need to learn how to relax (vs. wasting time, which I do very well). I’m thinking I need to learn how to sit still with my mind still. I think if I could relax easier, I’d have less emotional eating. Then–maybe I’d be able to rely on myself to keep weight down without a bunch of rules.

    🙂 Marion

    • Satu says:

      Hi Marion! You captured the idea behind intuitive eating so well: keeping weight down without a bunch of diet rules.

      I wish I could tell you how to relax and be present. I’m not exactly a relaxed person myself. And I Can’t tell yo do yoga, because you already do it!

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